You might appreciate some advice from your friends at the beginning of a relationship, but when things get serious, you should cultivate the intimacy between you and your partner, not share every detail with other people who are close to you.
Find out what not to tell your friends about your relationship for a wide variety of reasons, from betraying the trust of your guy to accidentally turning your friends against him and the relationship.
Things He Doesn’t Know
When you’re in a committed relationship, you shouldn’t be sharing secrets with your friends. Sooner or later, your partner will find out that he was the last to know and he will have a good reason to be mad at you. Put your relationship first and be honest. If you betray his trust by telling others your secrets, you’re putting up an emotional wall in your relationship.
His Annoying Habits
Whether you’re living together or not, he feels safe when he’s with you. Everyone has annoying habits, but they’re definitely one of the things not to tell your friends about your relationship. If you wouldn’t want him to talk about your annoying habits with his buddies, extend him the same courtesy and don’t share his with your friends.
Intimate Details
From what happens in your bedroom to personal issues that he’s only shared with you, it’s important to respect the intimacy if you really want a healthy and happy relationship. It doesn’t matter if you think sharing makes him looks good. Respect him the way you’d want to be respected and don’t bring up personal details when you’re talking with your friends.
Sensitive Info about His Family
High on the list of things not to tell your friends about your relationship, any sensitive info about his family should not be shared with your friends. You can’t control the impact of your words, and even if you trust your friends, they might end up deciding that they don’t trust him after you share too much. Without the proper context, your friends can also draw conclusions and start meddling in your relationship uninvited.
What He Thinks of Common Friends or Acquaintances
Don’t go sharing his opinions, particularly if they’re negative, when they’re even a tiny risk that they might end up creating tension or conflict. When it comes to what he things of friends or acquaintances, you’re better off not sharing that info. Even if you trust your friends to never repeat it, once it’s out there, this information can have awkward consequences.
His Fears
Even if he doesn’t have any real phobias, his fears are among one of the things not to tell your friends about your relationship. You know he wouldn’t want everyone to know, so sharing it will come off as a violation of your trust. Avoid getting into details on this particularly at the beginning of your relationship.
Embarrassing Medical Details
Just as bad as discussing his fears with your friend, any embarrassing medical details should not leave your lips. By sharing too many details, you’re not just betraying his trust, you’re also risking a lot of embarrassment and a big fight if he ever finds out.
Solved or Unsolved Arguments
If you discuss every single conflict you have with your friends, they’ll end up thinking that you’re either mismatched or in a toxic relationship. Big arguments are one of the things not to tell your friends about your relationship, particularly if it’s getting serious. Sometimes, letting something off your chest helps, but your friends can become an echo chamber for your negative feelings and that delays the resolution of a fight.
His Bad Gift Giving
This is definitely not as embarrassing as personal details or medical info, but it can also come off as a betrayal. No matter how bad his present was, you don’t know how much time and energy he spent on trying to get you the right thing.
Financial Details
Last, but not least, how much money he makes or who pays for things is also one of the things not to tell your friends about your relationship. If they’re really curious, be vague about it, but don’t share too much when it comes to the financial aspects of your relationship.
